- One of the common features among people who live with a purpose is that they are able to find meaning in the things that happen to them. Andrew Zolli, author of Resilience, describes these people as being able to “cognitively reappraise situations and regulate emotions, turning life’s proverbial lemons into lemonade.”
Back when my mother, Alberta, was in rehab, I arranged for her to have a phone consultation with Dr. Steven D. Farmer (http://www.earthmagic.net). Dr. Farmer is a spiritual healer, psychotherapist (retired) and shaman. My mother has no interest in anything esoteric, woo-woo or otherworldly. But as a former psychotherapist, I knew Dr. Farmer would know how to speak to my mother in a way that would be both encouraging and therapeutic. I also knew that his shamanic abilities could reach those esoteric parts of my mother that needed healing and support.
Dr. Farmer talked to my mother about her purpose– her role with her patients and her family. It was a very helpful and much needed conversation.
Dr. Victor J. Stretcher, author of the book “On Purpose” states:
- When you see the data about the elderly who have little or no purpose in life, and how quickly they get sick and die, you realize how important it is for an elderly person to repurpose their life toward something bigger than themselves.
Although, I had referred most of my mom’s patients to other child psychiatrists or pediatricians–a handful of parents kept calling, sending cards –asking when they could make an appointment.
I don’t think my mother anticipated how going back to work would affect her. Her patients have given her a huge gift. Because of them–she has not only repurposed herself but she has also reclaimed her self esteem.